Thursday, October 13, 2011

KY Intimacy Experiment - Day 2

Day 2 Exercise: Bring back that lovin' feeling!

Day 2 is all about touch.  And not just in the bedroom.  Couples who are comfortable with each other, tend not to feel a need to be physically close to their partner, unless some shagging is involved.  Truth is, as humans we crave that touch.  That feeling of intimacy.  That feeling of security.  And without it, it's tough to switch those feelings on for a half hour in the bedroom.

KY calls this "transferable desire".  The act of touch, or just being close, can bring feelings of comfort, as well as sensuality.  Hubs and I decided to hold hands when we went for a walk after dinner.  It was strange at first, since we hadn't held hands in quite a few years.  But it was nice to just feel his skin next to mind, without a pressure for "sexy results" as Homer Simpson would put it! :o

We also sat next to each other on the couch, watching the lastest X Factor (love that Simon!), which is something we NEVER do!  We have our spots in the living room.  Me on the recliner, him laying on the couch.  That's our routine.  That's what we're comfortable with.  That's what comes with 16 years of watching TV together!  But it felt good to have him close to me.  We didn't have to touch.  Just being that close brought feelings of happiness and, I'll admit, a little sexual spark too!

The exercise for Night #2, was to focus on intimacy, physically and emotionally.  One challenge was to hug.  For a long time!  Hug until it doesn't feel uncomfortable anymore.  And once comfortable in each others arms, focus on eye contact.  Maintain eye contact throughout your "bedtime" activities, forcing yourself to be fully in the moment.   Focusing fully on my partner made me feel uncomfortable and awkward at first, but truly, in the end, I felt a much closer to him.  And I enjoyed the look in his eyes, staring right back into mine.  It was very romantic!

Stay tuned for Day 3 of the KY Intimacy Experiment!


If you'd like to give the experiment a try for yourself, you can download the PDF of the program for FREE right here!  Or check out the KY Facebook Page for more info.

I was sent the Intimacy Experiment Kit from KY free of charge.  I am not being compensated for my time.  All opinions are my own.

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